Getting your groove back!

Today’s world is a tough place to be. We have daily challenges with family, finance and friends. How we balance our internal energy is the difference in personal happiness and calling the doctor for the anxiety pills! Let face it, your husband or boyfriend isn’t exactly telling you how beautiful you are everyday when he is solely focused on how to pay the mortgage! Of course he is not listing when you are talking to him about your crappy day because he is trying not to scream looking at the pile of bills on the table that he can’t pay!

So, how do we as women get our groove back on? Easy! Well, not exactly but it is up to us and only us. I recently discovered that I was no longer able to shop until I drop or purchase hundreds of un-necessary cosmetics because I just had to have that color of lip gloss to mix with my forty other shades. In addition to this realization I stepped on the scale, wrong move! I found myself jumping out of bed with what I thought was a heart attack in the middle of the night all over the sudden change in my fabulous life.

I woke one morning with an epiphany that I was letting life happen to me, not taking charge of my world. To take charge meant change, Oh My God, that nasty word, Change! I took a really good look in the mirror and didn’t like what was looking back. Who is she? No wonder he isn’t looking at me anymore, no wonder I am unhappy! Who are you? When he married me I was energetic, independent, happy and most of all in control. I decided that moment “Today is my day to take it back, take it all back!”

You would think this is easy to proclaim in the mirror, shout it out, and demand it all be given back, right? Well your right, that was the easy part, but now, how do I actually get it back, where the heck did it go? I looked everywhere, not one pillow unturned! No one had taken it; no one else lost it, no one that I could find to blame for loosing ME! So it was up o ME to get it back!

Getting “IT” back is exactly what I started working on. My plan of attack was to first determine exactly what “IT” entailed. So I made a list, I love making lists, It somehow helps to delay the process of working on “IT”. I started with that woman that looked back at me in the mirror. Oh don’t act like you don’t know her! You are her! No longer shaved my legs or caring about my hair or makeup. Oh and those few extra pounds, what’s the big deal! Wrong! In addition, I no longer had an answer to my problems only more crap to lay off on my husband. Not that I expected him to fix it but it just made me feel better to tell him how crappy my day was. Of course, then I was annoyed at him for not caring! How sensitive of me, I must have thought his day was filled with balloons and birthday cake!

So, my assessment, my honest look at myself was one I didn’t like much. It’s hard to look at yourself and make a list of all the things that have changed (that nasty word again) about yourself. But an honest look is an absolute MUST! It is the key to empowerment. What did I do next? I made another list, LOL. Again, prolonging the inevitable. However, it is very necessary as this list in your road map. Your first list was to beat yourself up and determine what the heck is wrong with you and who you have become. The second list is made of promises to yourself.

The promise is that you will CHANGE! You will find yourself again! You will shave your legs and wear skirts to show them off (remember the old days?). You will not blow up over every little thing that happens TOO you. You will simply realize that something happen and you will realize it is just a thing that happen and not go nuts over it! You will just handle it and go on with a smile! It’s not that easy you say! Yes it is, but you have to decide to deal with it just that way! A lot of meaningless things that happen, just happen, they don’t destroy who we are.

It is really just that easy! You will get back on your diet and get back into your skinny jeans. You will get up an hour earlier and do your make up and actually style your hair rather than going for that “natural look” because it doesn’t really look good on anyone! You will ask you husband how his day was and this time really care about HIS day. When he asks how your day was you will simply tell him the good things that happen and smile! Give him a break, his is just as lost as you where before you looked in the mirror.

Today, my financial life not different, my husband is still in a bad mood, and my family drives me crazy. You might think that nothing has CHANGED. I HAVE CHANGED! I lost those extra pounds that somehow found their way to my rear end, that pretty girl that used to look back at me in the mirror has found her way home! I am happy inside and I feel empowered! Now my family and friends all ask me how I do it! I simply say, I found something that I lost, I found ME!

I know you are sitting there saying to yourself “it can’t be that easy, there must be more to it! Well, of course there is! I just can’t dump it all on you at once, how do you think you fell apart in the first place!

To be continued …..

Written by: Brooks Rose